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EFT For Parents of Children Who Pull Hair & Pick Skin

Help to deal with all the emotions of having family, who suffer from Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.
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Reduce Stress as they deal with their children's picking or pulling
Understand how to use EFT in many different situations to help your child with Picking and Pulling
Have a tapping strategy for your child or teen to help reduce the intensity and frequency of the urge.

For parents of children suffering with Trichotillomania or Dermatillomania. When you see your child pulling their hair or picking at their skin, obviously in distress, many feelings rise up: anger, sadness, guilt to name a few.

Often these emotions block parents from really being present and effective in helping and supporting their child.

Joan Kaylor brings her decades of experience to help parents deal with their ineffective, often harmful, reactions to their child’s destructive behaviors. She uses her skills in EFT to help parents deal with their unsupportive behaviors so that they can be more effective helping their child move forward into a healthier life.

Note: This course is about helping parents with their distress regarding their children. This is NOT a course about how to stop pulling and picking.  There is another course teaching Emotional Freedom Techniques for pulling and picking.

Joan Kaylor stopped pulling out her hair in 1989. She has been helping children, teens and adults stop pulling hair and picking skin since 1994 when she became a professional counselor. Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania are body focused repetitive behaviors. They regulate emotions and help to soothe when we are upset, overwhelmed, bored or stressed. Joan considers pulling and picking to be addictions.

The treatment is completely difference from obsessive compulsive disorders. Healing from an addiction is work. It can be done. In this course, Joan will teach you strategies to let go of the urges and counseling for the shame and depression and family stress that come with Trich and picking.

Joan Kaylor has treated 1000’s of individuals, parents and families with Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.

There is lots of hope and through EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Joan will take you through a gentle process to relieve your emotional charges so that you can respond more effectively.

Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania

Trichotillomania (trick-o-til-o-MAY-nee-ah) is a disorder that causes people to pull out the hair from their scalp, eyelashes, eyebrows, pubic area, underarms, beard, chest, legs or other parts of the body, resulting in noticeable bald patches. Hair pulling varies greatly in its severity, location on the body, and response to treatment. For some people, at some times, Trichotillomania is mild and can be quelled with a bit of extra awareness and concentration. For others, at times the urge may be so strong that it makes thinking of anything else nearly impossible.

Skin Picking Disorder (also known as Excoriation Disorder or SPD) is a serious and poorly understood problem. People who suffer from SPD repetitively touch, rub, scratch, pick at, or dig into their skin, often in an attempt to remove small irregularities or perceived imperfections. This behavior may result in skin discoloration or scarring. In more serious cases, severe tissue damage and visible disfigurement can result.

Trichotillomania may affect as much as 4% of the population. Women are four times more likely to be affected than men.

Symptoms usually begin before age 17. The hair may come out in round patches or across the scalp. The effect is an uneven appearance. The person may pluck other hairy areas, such as the eyebrows, eyelashes, or body hair.

These symptoms are usually seen in children:

  • An uneven appearance to the hair

  • Bare patches or all around (diffuse) loss of hair

  • Bowel blockage (obstruction) if people eat the hair they pull out

  • Constant tugging, pulling, or twisting of hair

  • Denying the hair pulling

  • Hair regrowth that feels like stubble in the bare spots

  • Increasing sense of tension before the hair pulling

  • Other self-injury behaviors

  • Sense of relief, pleasure, or gratification after the hair pulling

Most people with this disorder also have problems with:

  • Feeling sad or depressed

  • Anxiety

  • Poor self image

Introduction for Parents


Joan Kaylor explains what you will get from this course. She also shares how her mother felt when Joan was pulling her hair.

Learn EFT for yourself and for your child.

How to Talk to Your Child

Joan discusses a very important aspect for helping your children recover from this. Do not skip this lecture.

Best Way to Help Your Child

You may think you are helping your child, but if your behavior is driven by fear, guilt, anger or a host of other destructive feelings, you aren't. This course will will help your relieve the emotional charges you experience when you see your child suffer and give you tools to better assist them on their healing.

Trichotillomania resources

Resources to help you while you do your research through the Trichotillomania Learning Center. Discover the sites Joan trusts.

How to help your child.

Relieviing Guilt


Do you ask yourself: "What did I do to cause this in my child?" The answer is "You did nothing." In this section we will help you to remove the guilt. Joan goes through the EFT process with you.

Tapping For Guilt

EFT Tapping session with Joan to relieve guilt.

Touch and Breath to Relieve Guilt

EFT Session with touch and breathing to relieve guilt.


Guilt stops parents from being present for your child.


Releasing Anger


Anger is a typical response to this problem. It does not help you or your child. We will be releasing your anderin this section

EFT Session for Releasing Anger and Rage

Joan walks you through an EFT Session to release your anger and rage.

Touch and Breathing to Relieve Anger

EFT Session using your breath in your EFT Session.


Being angry doesn't help anyone deal with Trichotillomania.


Releasing Fear


You may have questions which cause fear to rise up: "What if they can't stop – ever?" "What if they never grow their hair or lashes or brows back?" "What if...?" We will do EFT Sessions to deal with Fear.

EFT Session for Releasing Fear

Joan walks you through an EFT Session for Releasing Fear.

Touch and Breathing to Relieve Fear

EFT Session with breathing to release fear


Fear blocks you. It stop you in your tracks. Use this section whenever you feel fear rising up and stopping you.

The biggest fear for parents.

Releasing Sadness


People do not understand Trichotillaminia and Dermatillomania. Their responses can cause more problems and that is sad.

EFT Session to Relieve Sadness

EFT Session to deal with your sadness.

EFT Session with Breathing to Deal with Sadness

EFT Session with breathing to deal with sadness


Sadness is an real emotion and no parent can be happy dealing with the problems which occur as a result of Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania. It is normal, but we don't need to wallow in it.


EFT for Your Child or Teen


Now that you have worked on your stuff, you can work with your child or teen to help them.

EFT Session For the Urge to Pull or Pick

EFT Session you can use with your child or teen.

Short Version of Tapping for the Urge to Pull or Pick

Joan shares a short version of EFT for dealing with the urge to pull or pick.

Tappy Bear

Young children can transfer their urge to pull or pick onto a stuffed animal. EFT session with Tappy Bear.


It is important to share your EFT skills with your child or teen so that they can deal with their urge to pull and pick.

Essential Oils for Pulling and Picking

How to Use Essential Oils With Your Child

Adding Essential Oils to your tapping can help calm and sooth.

The Hair Pulling "Habit" and You: How to Solve the Trichotillomania Puzzle

Pre-Teens and Teenagers Book


Shows young people how to break their hair pulling habit by identifying trigger situations, developing resistance strategies, charting progress, modifying environments, motivating themselves, and staying with the program. Advice for therapists and parents, too.


Going Deeper

Often students find they don't go as deep as they would like when working with EFT on their own. More help is available. http://joankaylor.com/securevideo-consultation/

Next Steps

Do your research. Take one step at a time. Take one day at a time. This is a journey or healing. It didn't happen overnight and your won't cure it overnight. You can take back your power and help your child.

Emotional Freedom Techniques for Hair Pulling & Skin Picking

We have a course for your child to help them deal with urges to pull or pick.

We included a link in the Resources section, with a $50 off coupon when you click the link to register the course for your child or loved one.

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