In case you missed it in the video-
· It’s important to know that we separated this course out to make it more accessible! From our life coaching company we know one of the primary reasons people don’t seek help/counseling is because of cost. Don’t let that hold you back! Just know that this is part 4 of 4.
· This course is more about applying action steps than gathering information. If you’re the type of person that just wants to sit back and watch information and hope to get shot with inspiration, unfortunately this course isn’t for you! Making progress in anything, not just your relationship, takes action. So be ready to apply!
· If you want to skip around to later parts, you’re going to get confused. We reference a lot of previous material as the course continues on from part 1. Set yourself up for success! If you skip parts (like to this one) you’re going to get confused and you’re going to have a bad time… I can guarantee you that if you are starting with Part 4 (THIS course) you WILL become confused because of all the referencing of previous material. Don’t start here! You’ve been warned!
Let’s take you through the life of someone who was never shown the ropes on how to have an amazing relationship…
Imagine waking up one day laying next to your partner, looking over at them with that sinking feeling in your gut. Wondering, do you even love them anymore? Do they feel the same? You stare off at the ceiling. Couldn’t they do better? Couldn’t YOU do better? Your partners alarm goes off and they lean over to give you a kiss on the cheek. You notice it just doesn’t feel like it used to. You both get ready, minding your own business, nothing to talk about and head off to work. That person from the other department has been flirting with you and it’s nice to at least feel wanted somewhere. You think to yourself, maybe it wouldn’t be too bad to grab lunch?
You get home, check your bank account and notice a pretty sizable chunk was taken out of your account. “I guess we’re pushing back that vacation another month” You think to yourself, not even sure if you’ll have enough for rent. You know if you bring it up it’ll just end up how it always does, going nowhere. You have dinner separately, share a few words. Maybe have boring passionless sex to try and convince yourselves the relationship is okay. You fall asleep thinking about leaving but realize that would just be way too much trouble. So you stay. And you repeat this day after day. I hope you don’t think this is too far off from reality, because this was my wife and I!
Now imagine with me the you that has finished all 4 parts of this course...
Waking up to a sleepy morning voice saying, “you ready for cuddles?” with a smile on your face. You get up and tease your partner about how they’re always running late. You never leave the house without saying I love you and giving each other a kiss goodbye. That person from the other department starts flirting with you but it doesn’t even phase you because you live in a place feeling so secure and wanted by the person you’re with.
You work your budgets together and decide how to spend money based on your goals. You talk about your day and head to the bedroom for that new move you’ve both been wanting to try. You lay your head down, give your partner a kiss. You stare at the ceiling happy because you’ve done it. You’ve made your relationship your greatest source of pride and joy.
>> COURSE INFO
Welcome to The Playbook on Making Your Love Last Long Term. Part 4 of 4 that makes up the comprehensive video course that will map out exactly what it takes to make your love not only last, but be full of love and passion. It is the only relationship course designed to take your relationship to the next level by only leveraging what’s in your control, YOU and your actions. The only relationship course you can take on, to be frank, whether your partner wants to start the journey with you or not…
Part 4 includes-
16 videos and 16 worksheets to guide you along your journey all packaged within over 1 and a half hours of content.
You’ll receive a printable progress journal as a fun way to document your journey.
A good looking budget template that will do all of the hard work for you
On top of that you’ll get a spreadsheet that gives you a custom strategy for tackling your debt. All you have to do is plug in some simple numbers
You’ll also gain access to bonus content addressing specifically-
We’ll walk you through how to fill out the budgeting template
To top it off we’ll give you some strategies to tackle your debt effectively
With everything included in ALL 4 parts of this course, it’s valued at 1000 dollars. With everything included in ALL 4 parts of this course, it’s valued at 1000 dollars. The truth is the only people that put prices on your relationship are divorce lawyers. And they’re expensive.
Imagine a life where you and your partner can’t wait to pick up the phone when you call each other. Where you are completely aligned in the direction you want the relationship to go. You have goals you’re working to accomplish together, you have trust in each other. There’s a joy and peace that lives in the home and you two become untouchable! You two are one unit. The poster couple of #relationshipgoals. You don’t have to be another breakup or divorce statistic. You can choose to rise above that starting today.
For a limited time we’re going to basically give away this course on Udemy. You’ll receive all 4 parts of Fivever Love: The Simple Roadmap to Love that Lasts. It’s 67 videos, over 100 worksheets, over 5 hours of content, tons of helpful downloadables, bonus content to cater to every situation, for $99 dollars each. In total that’s less than a month of my time (Lino) as a certified coach OR any counselor or therapist. We know that, especially if you’re having relationship challenges, finances can be a struggle. We simply wanted to break up the content in 4 parts to help lessen the up front financial burden on our students. Now this also means you have to take these courses in the right order! You’ve been warned.
When we did a soft launch on Udemy it was a smash hit, receiving over 6,000 enrollments in over 104 countries within 3 weeks. Now we’ve taken your feedback, made necessary tweaks and are releasing it to Udemy the final time.
Enroll today because the truth is, we don’t know if we’ll host our course on Udemy forever. The beauty of it is that regardless of whether we host it here or not, if you enroll today you’ll have it and all of it’s updates forever.
As if that wasn’t good enough, After successfully exceeding Udemy’s content and quality standards, Udemy puts a 30-day 100% satisfaction guarantee on their courses. Just remember to follow their rules… Just a fair warning, if you’re not willing to put in work, don’t waste your time and money.
If you’re ready to start making your relationship your greatest source of happiness, enroll now and became officially part of the Fivever Fam!
>>> BONUS — Our Story!
For the past 3 years we’ve been fascinated with what makes relationships stand the test of time where some it’s like they failed before they even got started. We bought every book, every course, went to every seminar on relationships and learned from the best of the best in the industry.
At that time we began doing group coaching sessions at the State University and Lino was even asked to speak for a battalion of the Army’s future officers. People were constantly pushing us to coach professionally and so… we started a life coaching company, Awaken Life Designs! Lino become certified through a BCC accredited life coaching program and started taking clients. From there relationship coaching naturally became what he was best at.
Relationships… they suck… we’re just going to say it like it is. Despite all of the complexities of relationships, there are many challenges that can be fixed with common action steps. FINDING those common action steps was quite the journey. The journey that we hope to save you from. Through the journey of relationship self discovery we found ourselves basically waging war with advice that didn’t help us. If you can imagine testing things for 1-2 sometimes 3 months before realizing it either wasn’t sustainable or it didn’t quite work as marketed! Multiply that times dozens and dozens of SEEMINGLY great action steps
We were in your shoes at one point in time. Looking at our relationship from the inside out wondering if we could really make things work. Constantly getting into fights, taking advice from friends and family that was so painfully out of context it pushed us further and further from each other.
Not to mention turned our friend groups on the person that was the focus of those conversations… If you know what I mean. There was hardly anything remarkable about our relationship. Lino buried himself in his work, and spent almost no time at home.
“In fights I would always say I’m doing it for you. I’m doing it for the family. Which was a lie. I was just doing it for me. It’s what fulfilled me. To top it off we had sex but it left us feeling more numb than anything else. It was just sex. Not love making by any sense of the word.”
“To me the relationship was just a burden, something that was getting in the way of achieving and accomplishing my goals. But the irony was that there was something inside me deeply ingrained in the core of who I was that knew I’d never be TRULY fulfilled unless I was able to share my life with someone. I knew I could win over here at school and my future profession, but I had no idea where to even start in my relationship.”
The truth was we both didn’t have anywhere to go to for advice that we knew would help, our parents taught us how to be a good people, but not how to have a thriving relationship that lasts. When there’s so much pain and you don’t know what to do, you have 3 choices. 1) what most people do-what WE did- is do nothing and hope it just goes away (thumbs down) 2) Leave or 3) Take steps to learn and change your approach until you win. We chose 1 for a long time.
Eventually we reached a breaking point.
“I had been planning my escape, frustrated with myself that I didn’t think I could make her happy, which ultimately is all I ever wanted. I felt hopeless like I had tried everything. The truth was, that I had tried everything EXCEPT for what worked. This was the make it or break it moment. We were either going to make things work… or not. We were either going to switch from the 1 mindset to the 3 mindset.”
The good news? We did. What we did next set the foundations for a love that lasts. It was messy, but the important thing is that we started. First we took a journey in learning what Love Languages were all about. We discovered the psychology around the honeymoon phase and why it never lasts… for anyone. Not a single couple. We discovered the missing piece to relationship fulfillment with a psychological principle called the 6 Human Needs. No stone was unturned from discovering sustainable weekly check-ins, best sex practices, to how to work your finances to increase trust. What we realized was that relationships are so difficult because successful ones require an understanding of how to work together correctly in every single area of life.
We also quickly realized that the key to your relationship fulfillment is in sustainability. You see, we tried many things that were do-able up front when the excitement of “new strategy” syndrome was in full effect on us. But when the excitement was over and we were into month 2 on the application we often realized we couldn’t see ourselves continuing with that level of activity for the rest of our lives.
It forced us to break things down to the simplest steps that would provide the greatest impact in our relationship. When you think about relationships encompassing so many different areas in life, you have to understand that each area often takes very specific action steps to improve. By itself an action step might be completely sustainable, but when coupled with every single other thing that makes up healthy relationships… well prepare for frustration and no time for ANYTHING.
Lino- “Along the way I remember this intense joy that would happen more and more as we kept applying what we were learning. I remember the first time it happened. There was nothing really unique about the situation. I just became overwhelmed by such a feeling of love for her. Like nothing I had ever felt before. It was like all that mattered was her.”
“Fast forward to today I’ve realized something. I always thought that our relationship would get better when our financial situation got better or when some crazy situation was handled. The reality is I just found that problems became more expensive or the next crazy situation happened. Through all that trial and error we’ve reached a point where no matter the financial situation, no matter what’s happening in our lives, we know that we have each other and that we are there for each other. It’s a level of trust that my wife’s not going to run off with the milk man or me with the secretary at work. It’s a respect for each other and an understanding of each other that we couldn’t imagine having with anyone else. We just love each other so much. It’s those things that have made us stronger than we ever were before.
This journey really triggered us whenever we heard about relationship pain. “We figured that out with X technique or we stopped thinking about that after we implemented X tactic” we always told ourselves. It became frustrating because we knew we could be helping others on a larger scale in a way that was much more accessible than even coaching. If only people knew how small of a shift it was to have a relationship be a source of such joy. They needed what we were looking for FOR YEARS. Someone to show them the ropes, someone to tell them what to do.
We took our journey from the first step until now and turned it into a very thought out series of sequential steps. From ground zero, -your relationship being on the rocks- to the foundations of fivever love. We wanted to develop a way for someone to sidestep all of the bad advice and unsustainable practices that even though was marketed as help, ironically did anything but that for us. Our mindset was, how easy would going to the gym be if whenever you showed up, someone who had gone the path you were trying to go towards was there telling you exactly how to get there?
That’s what we wanted to do- Create a training plan for people from 0 to amazing relationships. To say forget picking out the books, forget the dozens of seminars, forget figuring out meetups, forget the random relationship influencers, let me show you how to get what you want in a way that is sustainable and entertaining.
At the end of it all we’re here for you every step of the way! Whatever you do, seek help with your relationship. Most splits are avoidable, it just takes certain techniques and action steps! Seek a coach, a counselor, a therapist, anything! They’re not as scary as you think (and will be well worth the $$).
Lino and Stephanie Madrid
Critical Steps Towards Financial Peace
Welcome to Fivever Love! As you'll see on your journey that this really is the SIMPLE roadmap to love that lasts. That doesn't mean it's ineffective! Fivever love is all about sustainability.
In this video, Stephanie is going to show you some best practices in using this course. Remember that we believe in you!
Attached we have your very own journal "My Fivever Story" to help not only guide you along the key takeaways of Fivever Love, but also as a little momento to show you how far you've come! Keep in mind that your journal encompasses ALL 4 of the courses that make up a Fivever Love. So don't feel like you weren't paying attention. Chances are, you just haven't completed the applicable course yet!
Welcome to the finances section! In this lesson, we're going to start with the basics of building trust in your relationship with your finances. The key is to always battle something we call You Holdin' Out on Me Syndrome!
The not-so-secret secret to battling You Holdin' Out on Me Syndrome is in getting a joint account! If you're going through this course, chances are that you have a joint account. However, if you haven't pulled the trigger on one yet, it's going to be important for the rest of this section! They're critical in creating trust in your relationship.
Having a joint account alone isn't enough to build trust in the relationship. The key is you have to optimize it in a way that not only builds trust but also keeps you on track with your bills! In this lesson, we're going to take you through 3 simple steps you need to take to optimize your account.
All around us we're surrounded by technology. It's time to start using it to help you stay on top of your finances! In this lesson, we're going to talk about different types of apps (with recommendations) that will help you do just that. Use technology for financial good!
In this lesson, we're going to talk about how to do a budget the EASY way! Many times, doing budgets can be pretty overwhelming with good reason! It's all about finding numbers, crunching them and figuring out how to make sense of the final figures. We've created a budgeting template that will do most of that work for you! On that note, be sure to check out the bonus content where we take you through what filling out the budget template will look like!
This lesson we're going to talk about what to do with your final numbers once you finished with your budget. You're either going to have a surplus or a deficit! We're going to guide you through how to handle each situation in a way that puts you out on top (or at least moves you closer)!
This is a fairly straightforward video. You can't just do a budget once and call it good for the rest of the year. You have to do it on a regular basis! But how often should you do a budget? Weekly? Monthly? Bi-weekly? In this video, we're going to talk about the pros and cons of both as well as what may work best for you!
The truth is that doing budgets together isn't always going to be an option. For the times that it ISN'T, the responsibility has to be on someone to ensure your budget is on point. If you don't, you risk pulling towards You Holdin' Out on Me Syndrome! This video we're going to give you some pointers and some best practices on how to choose properly.
This would hardly be a finance module if we didn't talk about debt! In this bonus content, we're going to take you through a simple framework for eliminating debt called the Snowball Method. Just be sure to download the spreadsheet we have to go along with it!
Doing something for the first time is always the hardest. In this video, we're going to take you through how to fill out your new budget template! This will take out ALL of the guesswork and help you on your path to amazing financial health! If you missed it, we've included the budget template on this video as well!
Fivever Love: Mindset to Loving Long Term
You're on the home stretch! In this video, you're going to understand the basics of what it means to love long term. You're going to face challenges and run into roadblocks. The key is to grow TOGETHER through it, not apart.
When we're facing challenges in our relationship, it's difficult to know who to turn to for advice. In this video, we're going to teach you how to make your life much easier by identifying your Love Leaders. We're going to give you tips and tricks on not only how to pick one, but we cover in the worksheet how to make that new relationship with your Love Leader amazing!
In ANYTHING in life, it's difficult not to compare ourselves to others. What we normally do is compare our blooper to other people's highlight reel. In this video, we're going to talk about how to keep your sanity together by putting your blinders on!
You did it! This is the final video! In it, we're going to give you our selection of the biggest takeaways from each module that you MUST apply for a fivever love. This isn't to say that the other concepts and videos should be ignored... this is just to say that if you do NOTHING else, you must do these 11 things to keep the love in your relationship Fivever!
Here's to the Fivever Fam! We've had a ton of fun together and are excited to hear about your journey with us. Let us know in the comments below what your favorite concepts or exercises were. We're thinking about you! Farewell, enjoy this final video from us!